Kink Advice MondayHi guys!!! Kink Advice Monday is here. I skipped last week because it was my turn on the sissy blog train but here we are together again. I have gotten quite a few questions, however I think one of the most popular is this one:

How do I get my wife to cuckold me? She says I please her, but I cannot help fantasizing about seeing her with another man. Should I mention it or just masturbate when I am alone thinking about how hot it would be?

The truth is that getting your wife to cuckold you may not be so easy. All you can do is ask. It is best to have the discussion when the two of you are NOT in bed. Let her know that you find her so sexy that you think about sharing her. Tell her that it’s something you think about often and it never fails to get you hard! Whatever you do, avoid making it sound like she has to do it or you won’t be excited at all… ever again.

Give her the reasons WHY you want to watch another man pleasure her. Do you find the prospect of her being turned on by another man exciting? Perhaps she alluded to the fact that her college boyfriend was well endowed. You might be interested in visiting the prospect that she would be more responsive sexually with a man who has a bigger cock. It could be the thrill that another man could have your hot wife only once, but she is yours every night!

It is equally important to let her know that if you do this the way you look at her will not change. Her having sex with another man will not automatically turn her into a slut in your eyes. If your fantasy comes to fruition remember that it will be necessary to curb jealous feelings. Just because a woman has sex with another man and enjoys it does not mean anything other than she enjoyed it. The notion that all women have to be emotionally attached for sex to be good is a myth. The only reason this idea proliferated is because of the unflattering names attached to women when they actually do enjoy sex purely as a physical act.

Remember that the odds are not in your favor too much because of the puritanical society we live in. Just because your lady is not up to actually having sex with another man does not mean the fun is over. She may be open to talking about your fantasy in bed as a bit of foreplay. Find out if that would be okay. It can be much easier to fantasize together about this type of kink versus doing it for real. Be descriptive. Describe how the scenario would unfold. Get her to tell you what the stud would look like right down to the size and shape of his cock!

Of course, this is assuming that you have a good line of open communication in your relationship. This type of kink advice is not for those whose relationship is on shaky ground or where there are trust issues. Be honest with yourself about where you are. Only you really know your partner. If you are not sure, then pose it as a question about something you read somewhere.

“Hey, I read this article on the internet about couples who do this (insert your version of the story here). What do you think about that?”

Chances are when you put it out there as something someone else did, you will get a quick honest answer. She will either say something like, “Oh, I could never do that” or “Really?! That sounds interesting. How did it work out for them?” The object is to open up the conversation and find out how she feels about this type of thing. There is always the chance that a partner will not be open to your fantasy, so be prepared for the possibility. This is where masturbation comes in.

Whether you end up getting your fantasy fulfilled or not, I always like to know how things turn out. Give me a call to discuss what happened. I’m here for you 🙂

-LENA